Instructions
Read each question and choose the statement that best fits your current relationship. Don't forget to keep track of your answers so you can scale them at the end of the quiz!
1) How do you and your partner work through disagreements?
2) When something is on your mind, how do you share it with your partner?
3) How does your partner respond when you want something different from them?
4) Do you feel like you are always watching what you are doing or saying when you spend time with your partner?
5) Do you feel supported by your partner?
6) When you make a choice about your life….
7) When you and your partner need to make a decision about the relationship...
8) When you share a problem in the relationship, how does your partner respond?
9) When I am hanging out with my friends or my family, without my partner...
10) When it comes to technology and social media, my partner…
ScaleÂ
Mostly As
Awesome, your relationship is off to a great start!
Based on your responses, you seem to be in a healthy relationship--that's great. Keep up the good work and remember that in order to continue this healthy streak, you have to keep in mind what qualities are important and necessary for you in a relationship. Some healthy characteristics to keep in mind: having similar interests, good communication, respect, honesty, fun, trust, etc.
And, when disagreements happen, it is important to have an open and honest conversation about what is going on so the two of you can then work towards a solution that works best for both of you. If you need extra support or have any questions, feel free to send us an email to [email protected] or to talk to someone directly, call our 24-hour hotline at (510) 794-6055. For additional resource information, visit our resources page to learn other tips to support you in having a healthy relationship.
Mostly Bs
Be cautious.
Based on your responses, there seem to be some issues going on in your relationship. It may feel like you have a hard time working through disagreements, and hearing each other out. The good news is that you can work towards having a healthy relationship by assessing what unhealthy behaviors you and your partner need to work on. If someone in the relationship is not willing to make these changes, then re-evaluate if you still want to be in the relationship. Remember, one person can't carry all the burden of the relationship for an extended period of time.
If you need extra support or have any questions, feel free to send us an email to [email protected] or to talk to someone directly, call our 24-hour hotline at (510) 794-6055. For additional resource information, visit our resources page to learn more about what it takes to have a healthy relationship.
Mostly Cs
Concern.
Based on your responses, you seem to be in a relationship where harm may be occurring. When harm happens, the relationship becomes unbalanced. This means that one person in the relationship is trying to have power or control over the other person. You may notice that there is a lot of arguments/fights happening, you may feel that you can’t safely share your feelings or opinions, you can't hang out with friends or family, you may feel anxious around your partner because of their mood swings, or nervous that they might get mad if you don't do what they asked, etc. These are indicators that there is harm in the relationship.
If you believe that you've experienced some of these indicators, take a moment to assess your relationship. Think about what you want to do next, there is help available. Reach out to your support system, friend, or trusted adult in your life. SAVE is here for you. A trained advocate can help you create a safety plan or provide you with options. Free restraining orders are available to youth 12 years and older if needed. Dealing with harm in a relationship can be a hard experience to go through, there is support out there--reach out when you're ready.
If you need extra support or have any questions, feel free to send us an email to [email protected] or to talk to someone directly, call our 24-hour hotline at (510) 794-6055. For additional resource information, visit our resources page to learn more about how to break the cycle of harm and what it takes to have a healthy relationship.